Keep in touch….

The phrase “keep in touch” is the most oft-used phrase among people who will probably end up, well, never keeping in touch.  They know they are not pursuing a meaningful relationship or friendship or continuing a meaningless one, with the recipient of the phrase; but the phrase is uttered regardless at the end of an encounter or episode of their lives.  Just in case – who knows what they might need to extract from you in future.

So to hedge their bets, they say “keep in touch” as it probably sounds benignly sincere but uttering it is probably the closest to any action they will ever take, to keep in touch.   

In that case, they should know there is another benign word closer to sincere, that is more versatile. 

“Take care” .  Whoever is the author of this phrase, is brilliant.

It sounds more final and does not promise anything that remotely requires follow up except on the recipient’s part.   So for people you never really intended to take up with after the encounter, it is a sincere and final goodbye.  Your kind thoughts will be much appreciated but no follow up action expected.  Your heartfelt sayonara was for them to take care of themselves and not you, them. 

But with people you do intend to take up with, a follow up call, e-mail, sms will carry the sincerity to reality.  So the “keep in touch” in this instance, is unspoken but implied. 

Of course, there are some people who use “keep in touch” more sincerely.  But for the most part in my experience, it is for the uneasy closure with people who are not that close but who they may still want to keep tabs on, i mean, keep in contact with the other.  This because they might very well end up doing so in the distant or not too distant future,  when the need arises to be nosy and confirm some news or gossip they have just heard, or to add fodder to feed the existing gossip bullet train.  Or they might want something from you.  If none of the above, then going back to premise, it is just uneasy closure for people who really don’t want to keep in touch.

My conjecture is this.  With people we want to keep in touch with, we will do so automatically, without having to say it.  It will be a natural extension of a friendship already established from the previous encounter.  No matter the timespan of the next encounter, we merely pick up where we left of.  We will even say “take care” at the end of an exchange, as well 😉

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3 thoughts on “Keep in touch….”

  1. Wah..how about “See you?”. How about that phrase? People say “See you” and you know they won’t see you if they can help it. Of course it works well to smoothen out that awkward second before you say goodbye. I have said ‘see you,” to total strangers when we both know such an expression of lukewarm desire will never come to be. But it is useful nevertheless. I see your blog is serious stuff unlike my own- full of ramblings only.

  2. We have a habit of wanting or needing to say something to wrap up an ancounter, be it in person, over the phone or email. I guess “Take Care ” or “Keep In Touch” is akin to “Yours Faithfully” or Yours Sincerely”. Imagine ending a telephone conversation with a friend by saying, “Yours sincerely”…hahahahaha
    An option would be to use “Good Bye” but that sounds so final.
    On a related note, it is not unlike the greeting “How are you?” Most times, the answer we expect to hear is “Great” or “Good”. Maybe the next time someone asks me that question, I will answer it with a “Do you really want to know?” 🙂

  3. yeah i get a lot of “keep in touch”es when i finish camps and stuff like that. i can’t be bothered to actually keep in touch with them most of the time but i just say “ok bye” and think to myself “keep in touch? with you? for what?”

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