What is it about the times we live in that makes people more me-centric, to the point of exhibitionism. Why the need to draw attention to oneself?
Or am I mistaken? Perhaps, it started long ago except but it just took different forms. People used to say “look at me” through what they owned. Bigger homes. Then it’s bigger homes in better neighbourhoods. Many bigger homes in investible neighbourhoods. Similarly, owning cars. Then it’s bigger, brighter cars. Many bigger, brighter cars. Bigger and better country clubs. Bigger, shinier, newer… whatever… just collect them. Do we need them might be met with is that even a valid question?… It makes us look better.
Those things maketh a man. Or simply, things maketh a man. (“man” in its generic meaning… don’t get on my case).
These days, exhibitionsim rears its head in different ways. In fact, I think it’s scarier. At least, rightly or wrongly, being a high class “karung guni” (rag and bone) man, seems to point to better living. (I didn’t say better lives). These days it just seems more destructive.
I mean take the practise of “sexting” – it used to be word of the year! It’s gone beyond texting sexually explicit messages, it is sending sexually explicit images and videos!! Some are even uploaded to the public domain voluntarily.
Why? Is it self-love or self-loathing that leads to such behaviour?!
Or the Ris Low’s of the world capitalising on a mistake! for her two minutes of fame…
Or a 22-year old revealing to the media, her affair with a man twice her age? I refused to read trash, not that one person can stop the media from capitalising on sensationalist news, but people keep giving me the details.
I am not excusing the man’s behaviour and choices. I am not saying that the old way where we sweep things under the carpet is the acceptable way. I am not excusing the media for their voyueristic, sorry standards of “journalism” (if you can call it that). I am not saying it is not the right thing to “expose” a wrongdoing.
I don’t want to go into the excuses about everything is so available to the public these days. Video phones gives everyone access to recording at any time and place for whatever purpose. Media is so available via call, e-mail, sms.
Just wondering out loud, why a 22-year old would reveal something that is so private to the media? Aren’t personal confessions and repentance enough? Putting aside that she is not concerned about the feelings of innocent people like his wife and children, and wants to hurt the man, since he is a public figure, what does she get from this? Revenge and her two minutes of fame? Tell me I’m wrong.
I am flummoxed!! … ok ok… confused, perplexed, flabbergasted, baffled…. at a loss for words… (well not , really)
Doesn’t she realise she is hurting herself too? Her loved ones?
There is a Peranakan/Malay proverb that goes something like this: “tepuk ayer dulang, percik muka sendiri”. She did that. She “hit” the water in the dish and it splashed on to her own face.
Is that ok? I mean like all the “look at me” conversations/interviews/actions. Or all the sexting videos and images, isn’t that tantamount to pornography? The reason or excuse is that it’s for someone you love. But I say someone you love, will never ask you to do such things. Or do they?
So what is it peeps? Is it exhibitionism?
Is it confined to this generation? What is causing this? A stressful world? A more licentious world view? The accessibility of media? Self love? Self loathing? Parents loathing? What?!…..