Have you ever hankered after something that you can’t have?
When I was young with chronic bronchitis, I used to hanker after ice cream so much. Of course, my mother would have none of it. Her word was law. Did I say “was”? 😛 Oops… “is”, I mean. 🙄 Don’t get me wrong. I was no pale lily. Bronchitis or not, I would be out there playing with the neighbourhood boys. Climbing in and out of drains. Playing catching. Eating sand. Matching them silly action after action! Hmmm… who’s the dumb one, now? 😀
No “masak-masak” (Malay term for “playing house”) until the bouts were upon me. Cough till the face turned green. Lungs popping out of the mouth. Well, if it could get pass the oesophagus. 😆 Phlegm no better colour. 😛 Fever from infection. Trip to the family doctor ad nauseam. Literally for me! Well, for mum too.
So I don’t blame her with the endless cycle of robust activity interspersed with vomitting yellow phelgm. Ok… too much info. 😀 So yearn as much as I could and would … no ice cream materialised (so much for the “laws of attraction” 🙂 ) The rule was bent only once a year. Chinese New Year was the celebration of celebrations. Even then, no Ben and Jerry’s or Haagen Dazs. Just the Ah Pek (“old uncle” in Hokkien) on his three-wheeled motorised cart, clanging the ice cream bell. Such music to my ears. It heralded the oh so cold, cold Magnolia ripple – yup no favourite chocolate flavour – too heaty. No matter, it’s ice cream sandwiched between two pieces of crispy biscuit!. Mmmmmmm…. heaven.
Those were the growing up years.
I was just thinking recently. What do we do now when we want something we shouldn’t have. It’s not ice cream for me these days (could be for you! 😉 ). I turned down an ice cream treat as I was coughing. Abstinence from ice cream is a piece of cake these days.
But what about something bad for the health, your career, your finances, your well-being, your life? Do we have the discipline to refrain?
In this age of getting what you see. Getting what you want. Getting immediate gratification. What do we do?
No more mum to hold the “gun to your head”. Figuratively speaking, of course. (No case of child abuse here…moving on).
I know some people who make a “life” in their minds (literally!) of whatever it is they hanker after. And sometimes, they live more in that made-up world than the reality. Is it a measure of weakness? Is it the inability to face reality? Is it the only safe route?
Or people who will stop at nothing till they get what they want. God forbid if you get in their way. 😮
My grandma used to say, “what’s not yours, is not yours”. No amount of wishing, or dreaming, or fantasising will bring it to you. (As an aside… sometimes brute will and force does get you there). Whatever it is, I guess the question is, will it be worth it?
Don’t know about you but I think I’ll stick to grandma’s wise old adage. Don’t hanker after things you can’t or don’t have. Just enjoy and treasure what you already have. 🙂 And sometimes… ice cream does come your way, once a year! 😎